Expelled does not mean Uncalled

/ikspel/ to force to leave, a place by official action

For the boarding school students…

Remember that senior that was expelled in school because he cooked food in the bathroom? What came to your mind when you heard it? I remember one senior that was expelled for charging phone in the toilet ceiling. Omo the things we did for survival boarding house.

If you look closely, those people we thought were lost causes in school, look at their lives now and tell me the truth, between you and them who is more successful? Do you get? I don't know how they did it but they turned out successful. Who did we offend by being diligent students?

So what did you think of them? Recalcitrant? Unfit? But it's not what you thought of them, it's why. Why did you think them unfit. Was it because of their actions or because they are unfit as persons?

Bring the same ideas to a workplace. If someone who you consider competent was expelled from their workplace, what would you think about them? Unfit? Because I know you'll blame the company for not knowing what they lost and rain curses on their boss for sacking this person and ruining their life.

So what caused the shift in thought if you call the student unfit and blame the company on the other hand. Did they become unfit because an organisation said so, or because they were actually incompetent?

For someone expelled from the seminary, for which a host of reasons can cause. But for reasons of personal prejudice collated over time, which even the seminarian in question might not know of until he is given a letter. Is the person still called to be a priest even when the system says he's not?

Trust me the last place you want to be expelled from is the seminary. When you become a Wasseminarian by expulsion, no one cares about the reason, it's taken for granted that you must have done something very wrong.

But people know very little about what happens within those walls. It is easy to think that the person is uncalled when it's a system that scrutinises the call.

You've eaten the same jollof rice from two or more different places right? There's always that one person that gets the right proportion of the ingredients and the perfect timing when the rice won't be soft or hard. Yet, someone will eat your perfect jollof and squeeze their face. It's the proverbial one man's meat.

When someone is expelled from any system it means that the system has perceived him incompatible with itself. Not incompatible with the virtues or responsibilities demanded and especially not even with their vocation. The system feels they don't have that right proportion of ingredients.

But people can be insensitive and script a reality for you where you failed completely in life because you were expelled. You are immediately labelled and discussed in low voices as an object of warning. “Don't be like Henry, it's a woman that brought him from the seminary.” The kids are warned.

I wonder what would be said if a man brought me out. 

But God does not limit his call to a system. Every system understands and interprets God's call for them, the same way everyone understands and interprets God's will for them. For the Wasseminarian who thinks that he is not called, rethink. God calls people to work for Him in different capacities.

So you are still called and you can find a place where you are the right proportion of ingredients, neither soft nor hard. And guess what, success is the best spice. When you're successful enough, you'd become a model of emulation.

On Life, Healing and Growing

A weekly account of my life as a Wasseminarian.

As I promised last week, here's our cake…

My partner came around and we attended mass together for the first time. She's really amazing and getting beautiful by the day.

Teaching is still ongoing and is more intense now as my students exams are ongoing. Stayed up one night till 4am teaching and it scattered my system.

I couldn't finish up with my tasks from last week and carried them on till this week.

I tried reaching out to the students and it didn't turn out as supposed. So I'm going back to the drawing board to restrategize.

The week has been very excruciating with a lot of tasks. I fell ill a little and there are some setbacks now.

I have been faithful with my journaling, prayers and devotions. Novena has ended.

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Until next week. With love and intention. ❤️

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